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Love never fails

A few weeks ago I blogged about the Tests of Love and Loving Like Jesus Loves.  We all need a reminder of love so this is it again for the one that is shorter for that which was longwinded, but still got the point across.

When God puts you through tests He will keep you there until you pass the test, and now I found out how you can pass the test.  It is through the Agape love, the unconditional and self-sacrificing love, which never fails.

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13:

“13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

That means that all you do for Christ, isn’t enough.  It doesn’t matter how much you pray, read the Word of God, believe God for miracles, selling all that you have to feed the poor, go through persecution or whatever else you do for God, but if you don’t have love then it is nothing. You could be doing all these things, but out of the wrong motive.  I could be writing this blog to get the Word out, but if I don’t sincerely love the people with the unconditional love and the same kind of love that God gave me, then it is nothing.  A world without this kind of love is useless.

These are the characteristics of the kind of love that Paul is talking about:

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Let’s start with the first one – love suffers long and is kind –

Do you get cranky or would you get cranky when you are not feeling well?  Would you still show compassion and a heart full of love.  Besides Jesus, I can think of one person – a fictional person in the book, Gone With the Wind, who had this characteristic trait, Melanie was sick and suffering, but she was always kind to Scarlett no matter how much she may have treated her badly.

Love does not envy – That means you don’t want the other person has.  It could be their house, or their car, or their clothes, or their shoes, or even their anointing because to get this realization you have to know that God created you for a purpose and He has given you certain things, which He wants you to have and you have to be appreciative of what you have.

Love does not parade itself or is puffed up – This means that love is not conceited, arrogant, or proud.  The proud will be brought down and be humbled.

Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

All these gifts which have been given to us are only for our purpose for our time here on Earth, but when we have love this love never fails.  People can prophecy all they want about different conspiracies, or when Jesus is coming back, and people can have knowledge and it will vanish away, but when people have perfect love, then that which is not as important will be no more.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

This is a reflection on being a carnal Christian versus being mature in Christ, to get to the deeper level of understanding, and to know the fullness of God, which can only be realized when we get to heaven, which is when we will be face to face with Jesus.  Just like Jesus knows us, then we shall know Him.  But the ultimate desire is to get to know Him like here on earth and to get to experience the union and intimacy that Jesus had between Father and Son.  In this term intimacy I mean closeness.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”

Faith is good, Hope is good, but love is the best.

Jesus says in Matthew 24:12-

And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold.

I was meditating a lot on this verse.  It seems like a lot of ways, our love has become cold.  It’s almost like numb.  It feels like we’ve been to that place where nothing seems to shock or amaze us anymore and we’ve taken it all for granted.  The news headlines are so preposterous, and scandalous because of lawlessness, and the advance in technology has it made it more difficult to receive what we need from God.  We have gone into technology over stimulation and we are all pretty much addicts to it.  Since the days of television, to the days of internet, and IPAD, and IPHONE, and all the other gadgets, yes they were created for good and probably have saved lives most of the time, but in the days of Elijah, and the ACTS of the Apostles, they didn’t have these things, and they were able to get into the Presence of God, much quicker than we do.  Do we need a youtube playlist, or mp3 player, or laptop, or cd’s to get into the Presence of God, or can we simply just worship with the Holy Spirit?  Don’t get me wrong, these things are all good in building your faith, but when you’ve gotten into technology overstimulation it becomes harder to receive from God.

Something has to happen.  Something has to change.  We need a revival of love in our lives so desperately.  We need a revival of love where neighbors actually speak to each other.  We need to get rid of this independent, everyone live for themselves spirit, and live by the love of the Lord, which is to love God with all your heart and love your neighbor as you love yourself.

When you love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength – and this means emotions too, because it is implied by soul, which is mind, will, emotions, then this can change your life.  The problem is that when we don’t find, or because we are weary or worn out, and we don’t feel like pursuing God, and get caught up in daily activities then we become numb, or cold, and detached.  That can become a very dangerous thing when we are so thirsty and deprived of the living water.  That’s why Jesus told the woman at the well that He is the Living Water, and that He will refresh our souls and get us into that place.

Heavenly Father,

Help us get to that place where our love never grows cold, and that we live out 1 Corinthians 13, as the body of Christ, and to take on the characteristics of the Fruit of the Spirit that can only be found in You.  Help us put the self-sacrifice instead of selfishness, and take away our pride and make us humble, help us to not seek our own, but to glorify you with our daily lives.  Your blessings are great and your workings are miraculous, and help us to see the mighty workings of love and Agape in our lives.

In Jesus Mighty Name I pray,

Amen.

Loving like Jesus Loves pt 2

For the people that didn’t see my first blog posting here is the link –

https://kingdomofgodservantv4.wordpress.com/2012/02/19/loving-like-jesus-loves-pt-1/

 

To recap – I briefly introduced a comparison of Jesus portraying love like it mentions in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and how we can incorporate those qualities in our life as a means of self-examination.

Now I will continue where I left off, and I pray that this blog posting will touch your hearts because I think it is an area we all need to grow in.

1 Corinthians 13:5-8

(Love) -it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

8Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end].

Love takes no account of the evil done to it or it pays no attention to a suffered wrong – It was very interesting that God challenged me in the same area that night I posted the last sermon.  I am not going to go into what happened, but it was a small thing, and my actions showed that I hadn’t yet learned what I was preaching through blog, but at least I was aware that this was an area where I was failing to meet God that night and I was able to ask for forgiveness in that area.  When I think about this passage, I think about two people in particular.  One is Jesus, who I mentioned before, and the other one is Paul.

Here is Paul in the Message translation talking about the woes of sufferings he had to endure from 2 Corinthians 11 –

3-27I’ve worked much harder, been jailed more often, beaten up more times than I can count, and at death’s door time after time. I’ve been flogged five times with the Jews’ thirty-nine lashes, beaten by Roman rods three times, pummeled with rocks once. I’ve been shipwrecked three times, and immersed in the open sea for a night and a day. In hard traveling year in and year out, I’ve had to ford rivers, fend off robbers, struggle with friends, struggle with foes. I’ve been at risk in the city, at risk in the country, endangered by desert sun and sea storm, and betrayed by those I thought were my brothers. I’ve known drudgery and hard labor, many a long and lonely night without sleep, many a missed meal, blasted by the cold, naked to the weather.

28-29And that’s not the half of it, when you throw in the daily pressures and anxieties of all the churches. When someone gets to the end of his rope, I feel the desperation in my bones. When someone is duped into sin, an angry fire burns in my gut.

How many of us can say we even have been through all that and Paul’s anger was not against those other people, but he was angry that still people would not believe the reason why he was sent.

But no one takes the place of Jesus, and what He went through for us.  We get a traffic ticket – we blame the cop.  We get into an accident we blame the other driver.  Imagine all those women that are being raped and abused everyday and the torture that they have had to go through and if it weren’t for people like Joyce Meyer and Paula White showing them that through Christ we can learn to forgive to that level.  To pay no attention means to not even consider it.  That’s why in Romans 8 it says, “The sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared to the glory that is about to be revealed in us.”

Love does not rejoice in injustice or unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail:  God is a God of Justice.  When people were looking at the Casey Anthony trial, there were varying opinions and people were taking side, and the news was spreading like wildfire.   People were looking for justice to prevail. You may ask, “how can God take sides?”  That’s a part of our limited understanding of God that we can comprehend with our minds, but as children of God, we are His favorite ones, so He will always take the side of the favorite one, but we have to have compassion on the other people as well, and pray for God to give them grace, and a second chance because we too were once sinners, yet He died for them as well.  When Barabas was chosen instead of Jesus, the world made it’s choice, and it was the last chance and the final call for the Jews to come to repentance, but because they didn’t and God knew they wouldn’t Jesus was laid up on the Cross be a slaughtered lamb for the sacrifice.  He did it out of His mercy and Grace and for the sake of Justice to see that all the wrongs would be made right.

Sometimes Christians see things happening around them to wicked people and they think, “Oh they deserved that.”  It’s sad to see that even in churches, there are Pastors who are sinning and we blame the media for picking on them and singling them out when in fact they were the ones sinning.  This was a topic discussed in one of our Bible studies.  The world has sort of twisted justice to take the form of social justice and civil rights to the extreme where they are trying to get unrighteousness to be justified.  Some of the things that they are doing and even if they are  Christian, only with a repentant spirit and realization of God’s jealous love for them, will be able to see what true righteousness and justice is all about.  God’s kind of justice and righteousness is different because is based on the truth, and that Truth is solely based on God’s Word and revelation of the Holy Spirit.

Love bears up under anything and everything that comes:   We have it so easy in America and in developed countries, where we have luxuries at our disposal.  Even the internet is a click away.  We did not have to struggle the same way that the first century Church did, and maybe that’s why we’re not seeing the same kind of Revival and Power in the Church because people have settled for Microwave Christianity.  Just 30 seconds to 5 minutes and you’re done.  No more waiting for the stew to boil and wait on the Holy Spirit.  We are caught in a cycle of do, do, do, and less be still and know because we are so caught up in our jobs, and our daily ‘idols’ and ‘gods’ that we refuse to see God for who He truly is and what He has called us to do.  So if we have a headache, take some tylenol.  If we have physical pains take painkillers and go see the doctor.  We would rather go see the doctor then go see God, the Great Physician and Healer.  When Asa was diseased in His feet, and He did not seek the LORD.  Here’s the passage. I think it’s important we take a look at it.

11 Note that the acts of Asa, first and last, are indeed written in the book of the kings of Judah and Israel. 12 And in the thirty-ninth year of his reign, Asa became diseased in his feet, and his malady was severe; yet in his disease he did not seek the Lord, but the physicians.

Who is to say that if king Asa had sought the Lord in the time of His malady instead of turning to the physicians, then the Lord would have had mercy on him, and healed his feet?

So to get this verse to take it to another level and correlate it back to love.  How much are we willing to do for love?  How far are we willing to sacrifice for love?  Whether it be love for God or love for neighbor.  We find it easy to sacrifice when it comes to love for our self, but actually when we sacrifice out of love for others, it takes it to another level.

We are called to love no matter what the cost.  But are we doing that?  Are we loving no matter the cost?  I sometimes have this struggle that I want to show Agape for other people, but sometimes because of the physical limitations of my body, I feel that I am not equipped enough to handle whatever needs to be done, so in essence I stay in my comfort zone, and that’s a dangerous place to be in.  We are to go and get out of our comfort zones.   How many times have you tried to go to your neighbor or kids down the street and minister the gospel to them?  What have you gone out of your way to love someone and do something for them?

This love, love for God should bear up no matter what happens.  Let us all strive to reach that kind of love in our lives.

Love believes the best of every person- This is a very nice thing to know that Jesus believes the best out of us, and that He wants to see us succeed and prosper in all that we do, say, or think.  But are you pointing out other people’s flaws instead of looking at the best of them. I think this is a flaw of human nature, that people tend to look at other people and see what’s wrong with them, instead of believing the best of every person.  We should look at every person and think that they are a too good to be true story in progress.  Even when telemarketers call, do we have this kind of love, not to think that they are pushy, and unscrupulous and greedy, but actually to see the best in every person?   Anne Frank said, “I think basically people are really good, down at heart.”  Anne Frank was a young girl who died in a concentration camp during the Holocaust and she wrote a diary of her life in The Secret Annex.  Most of us under terrible and abusive circumstances would refuse to believe the best of every person.  We would be bitter and resentful.  Some people might think that it is being naive, but actually it is the opposite.  The Bible says we are to be cunning as serpents and as innocent as doves.  This takes wisdom.

Love’s hopes are fadeless under all circumstances – This means that even if you don’t have what you desire right now, you still believe and hope in the Truth of God’s Word.  Hope is a desire or expectation for a certain thing to happen and it is supposed to be fadeless.  I actually have a funny story about my experiences with hope.  I sometimes go by the expression, hope for the best, and expect the worst, but that is a contradiction in terms based on the definition.  So sometimes I get on the scale, and I say, “I expect that I have gained weight, but I hope that I have lost weight.”  Then I get on the scale and then I lose weight and I am so “happy”.  Do you know what that was there?  That was false hope.  That was hope based on circumstances meaning that my happiness is dependent upon the weight on the scale.  True hope means that whatever goes on, whether my weight goes up or down, I will not lose my joy.  Joy is not dependent upon circumstances.  Circumstances means things going on around you that you have little or no control over.  As Christians we have hope in our salvation, and this means no matter what happens we don’t lose that hope.  Hope also means to trust or to anticipate.  We are to trust Jesus and anticipate good things for our lives.  That’s why God says His plans for you are not to harm you, but to prosper you, but to give you a future and a hope.

Love endures everything [without weakening] – This one really got to me.  Try lifting a 200 pound weight without weakening.  Tall order right?  Well spiritually we are supposed to be athletes and soldiers and we are supposed to endure without weakening.  Hebrews 12:11 has a good verse on the subject, “No discipline is joyful, but is grievous and painful, but in the end produces peacable fruits of righteousness to those that have been trained by it.”  When you discipline yourself it is like you are chastening yourself, but that produces righteousness after successive trials, of going through obstacles.  Soldiers have to go through tremendous and vigorous training and that makes them stronger, and stronger to the point that even the weak one becomes strong.  A team is only as strong as it’s weakest player so as the Body of Christ, we should be strong enough to endure whatever comes our way.  The Bible calls us to pray that we be able to endure the time of trouble, so that we can be strong in that day.  Jesus says whoever endures to the end (endures in His faith), will be saved.  It means not giving up, even when things are hard and difficult, even when obstacles come your way.  There is so much God has in store for us, if we could only open our eyes and see.

8Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]- This is the best one.  The best way not to fail God and to fail His tests is to be consistently acting out of the fiery passion of Agape love that God has for us and for His people.  The reason why this kind of Agape Love, never comes to an end, is because it is carried to eternity.  In the rest of the passage in 1 Corinthians 13 it says that you can prophecy, speak in tongues, but you don’t have love then you are nothing but a sounding brass and clanging cymbal.   This kind of love covers a multitude of sins, and if you have this kind of love then you can fulfill the law because the law was made as an expression of love and Jesus nullifed the law through His work on the Cross.  When you love someone you cannot sin against them, and when you love God you cannot sin against Him.  When you love yourself, you will be able to receive the love that God has for you and take it to the next level and desire to become holy like Him because His grace cleanses you of all unrighteousness.

This is my prayer that all of us desire, yearn, and seek for, and strive after and go for and pursue this kind of love:

Many waters cannot quench love,

Nor can the floods drown it.
If a man would give for love
All the wealth of his house,
It would be utterly despised.

Heavenly Father,

Stir up in us the passion, the love, the zeal, the fervor, for your kind of love so we can reach the nations.  Take us out of ourselves and our own comfort zones and let us live out daily for the love transformation in our lives.  Change our hearts, and make us hungry for Your Word, Spirit, and Power to be made manifest in our lives and the loves of others.  Let us be like living vessels without any bitterness and let us live out the calling of 1 Corinthians 13.  Lord, teach us and guide us with Your Holy Spirit how to live out the daily lives each day.  Show us what we are supposed to do.  Lord God, Thank You for being the Lover of our Souls.  Forgive us if we fallen away or drifted away from your love and awaken the love.  Awaken the love in all of us.  Stir it up Lord.  I seal this prayer with the Blood of Jesus as you help each of us this day and everyday.

In Jesus Mighty Name I pray,

Amen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Loving like Jesus loves Pt 1

I need this message more than anyone else I know.  I pray that this message might move you and transform your heart in some way to give the gift of love like Jesus had for us.

Most Christians know these verses about love:

4Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

5It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

Jesus displayed all of these characteristics.  He was patient and kind, He watches over us and forgives us of every kind of mistake we make over and over again.  He is not envious, and He is not jealous in the sense that He wants or needs anything else from anyone else, but only His role as part of the Godhead, He pursues us with a passionate love for His bride because He does not want anyone to take us away from His kind of love because that was part of His mission to restore love upon this earth.  Jesus was not boastful, proud, or haughty because He took the form of a bondservant and was completely submissive and knew who He was.  That’s why He was able to say with boldness and declare in front of the temple that He had come to fulfill the Scriptures in Isaiah.  He was blunt and honest when He came.  He is not rude and He does not act unbecomingly.  His love is not self-seeking, He actually came to fulfill what the Father required of Him.  He is not touchy, fretful or resentful and He actually warns people against being fretful.  Some of His last words were “Forgive them, they know not what they do.”  He did rejoice at injustice and unrighteous, but He rejoices when right and truth prevail.  He bore up under anything and everything that came and was/is ready to believe the best of every person, and His hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and He endures everything without weakening.  Isn’t that nice to know that He believes the best out of you, that He thinks highly of you.  He sees you as His treasure.

Isaiah 59:19 says:

So shall they fear The name of the LORD from the west, And His glory from the rising of the sun; When the enemy comes in like a flood, The Spirit of the LORD will lift up a standard against him.

Jesus became that standard.  Why was He that standard? Because He had the Agape, self-sacrificing unconditional love, which is talked about in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

A standard was something an army raised up in battle and I think it was to signify who they were and each army had a symbol.   You can do some more research on that of what you want.

So as we look at these verses more closely, take time to examine your own heart and see if there is anything where you need the Holy Spirit to help you work on so you can be more like the image of Christ.  How else will they know us unless we are Christ-like examples?

Love endures long:  Fellow blog followers have read my previous posts on endurance.  How much would you be able to endure, and would you be able to go through while still being patient and kind?  I’m going to break this apart into going into detail more about patience and kindness and summarize at the end with endurance.

Love is patient:  Would you be able to wait at the doctor’s office for two, or three, or maybe four hours?  Would you be able to wait 3 hours in traffic?  Would you be able to put on hold for an hour and a half?  I know it seems like I am going to extremes here, but Jesus was extreme so we are called to be like Him so I want to exaggerate on purpose.  The world is patient for things that they really want like staying in line overnight for 6 to 12 hours for Black Friday Sales, or even waiting in line to for concert tickets and to get the best seats for the artist.  If people can show that much enthusiasm for worldly things, then how much more enthusiasm should we show for Godly things?  I know I get frustrated on the phone if I have to wait for 5 to 20 minutes.

How about waiting for healing or an answer to prayer?  You’ve waited over 10 years for your loved ones to be saved, or a long time for that healing or financial breakthrough.  How long would you be willing to wait?  Patience and long suffering is a fruit of the Spirit.  Now this is just a theory, but I believe one of the reasons that the thief on the cross was able to enter Paradise without water baptism, was because the thief on the cross had fellowship in Christ’s sufferings when he realized that he was a sinner.  It’s just something I came across when I was thinking about the Scriptures.  Most people are patient to a degree, but they cannot do it without grumbling and complaining sometimes and even with myself I often have to catch myself and ask, are you grumbling and complaining?  Are you patient?  If you need help in this area ask the Holy Spirit to help you.

Love is kind:  The word kind means “friendly, generous, and nice” and even some cases “gentle”.  This is the primary characteristic trait people usually see when you are a Christian.  They usually tell you how sweet, and how nice you are.  But what separates you from the world and unbelievers?  Is that fact that you can endure whatever circumstances and still remain patient and kind?  That’s why these things were put together.  There is a movement going out called Random Acts of Kindness, and I don’t know if it was started by Christians or not, but it is not just acts of kindness in themselves that set a Christian apart, but suffering a long time with patience and kindness.  Take for example you have a painful disease such as fibromiyalga, or multiple sclerosis, or lupus, or any other long term life affecting disease that causes a lot of pain.  Maybe you even might have vertigo and occasional dizzy spells.  Would you be able to tolerate it at it’s worst and still bear with it and be patient and kind, or would you be grouchy, complaining, or wallowing in self-pity?  Take for another example you are a caregiver and you have given your life up to take care of a needy person, would you be able to maintain patience and kindness without complaining?  I know that God has promises for healing, but I think for those people that are suffering with diseases, which are not part of God’s will and they should never give up on the promise, but they will have to get to the point where they say, “If you don’t want to heal me right now, then that’s ok, I can wait.”  Some Christians look down on people that suffer physically for their problems saying that they don’t have enough faith to get healed, or that they are operating out of sin and unforgiveness, but sometimes it is that God is developing the fruit of longsuffering or being patient so it is not completely their fault.

Love is not envious or jealous:  Do you crave what other people have?  Someone once said that the two primary things that motivate the stock market are fear and greed.  I am assuming that you are beyond the point of wanting someone else’s clothes, car, house,  or job because those things are for worldly people, but do you crave other people’s anointing?  Do you desire where they are in their ministry and what they may be doing, and haven’t gotten there yourself yet.  I have posted a youtube sermon called “God made you unique”, and for that reason I want to express again that we are each individual creatures with a distinct and definite purpose.  So to crave what other people have is not meant to be from God.  The only thing that we should be craving that someone else had, is what Jesus had, and that is the Holy Spirit, but even with the Holy Spirit, the gifts and calling are unique to each person.  God has a unique plan for each one of you.  Sometimes people even crave other people’s healing, and other blessings.  Your blessings are unique to you, and the more you give the more it will be returned to you.

Love is not boastful, vainglorious, or does display itself haughtily and not conceited (arrogant, inflated with pride):  When you are boastful, vainglorious, or haughty it means that you have issues with pride, and pride comes from soul issues, that you have not laid at the altar.  Ask yourself this question, if someone pays you a compliment, do you let it get to your head?  Because this is a sign of pride.   Paul said we should boast in Christ, and I believe he also mentions boasting in sufferings for Christ’s sake.  Pride leads to a person’s downfall.  lucifer fell because of his pride.  We as Christians, even pastors may think, “Oh, I don’t have any pride,”  but when you keep going on and on about the success of your ministry or the success of how God’s using you, or anything where you lay credit to yourself, then you can see that this is an issue of pride in your life, and it needs to be laid down at the altar, and be repented for.  If you have issues in this area ask the Lord to help you lay down this area of pride in your life, for the Bible does say, “those that are humbled, will be exalted.”  We all need to be like Jesus in this area.  He was so obedient to the Father that He laid down His life.  He washed the disciple’s feet, and took on the role of a bondservant.  This a characteristic trait we all need to have.  We need to stop bragging about ourselves because we are nothing without God, and God made us who we are.  I’ve seen people, and they don’t realize it in themselves, that think they are living a Christ-like life but you see them bragging about what a difference they’ve made in other people’s lives and I harbor no resentment against them, but I pray that even they can see where they cannot see it themselves.  Lord, help each one of us with this today.

Love is not rude:  We know that the world can be rude, with foul language, and hand signals, honking, rude driving behavior, but we as Christians are supposed to know better.  It says not to behave unmannerly.  How many people do you know that when you say “Thank You”, they say, “You’re Welcome”.  Sometimes, they say, which is the rudest thing you can say to a person besides nothing else at all, is “Uh-huh.”  I think it also becomes an issue to be expected to be thanked in some places because true modesty is about doing things without receiving a reward, and even if you are not thanked.  Jesus did what He did on the Cross for the people, and aside for some of the disciples, the crowd was not appreciative.  It is more than actually saying “Please” and “Thank You”, but it is the way you treat people who are in service to you.  Do you treat them with respect?  I can remember one time I was at a restaurant, and it was after New Year’s, and they asked what my resolution was, and I explained, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, but I was tested on that very resolution that night, and I failed because, the salad came out too early, and I didn’t have time to finish my meal.  Everything was at once, and the manager was nice, but I kind of felt like I was a hypocrite, talking about the “love verses” and not acting out of love.  We have to often catch ourselves in the act of behaving rudely.  Some people behave rudely and they are also mean, and unkind.  Jesus was neither of those things.  He had to be careful because the throngs were pressing up against Him, and they were pushing Him aside, and He still showed graciousness instead of rudeness.  Lord help us at all times not to behave rude or unbecomingly.

Love does not seek it’s own rights or it’s own ways:  We often see people talking about women’s rights, civil rights, and things of that of that nature, and that is good to stand on principle if it is for a greater purpose of mankind, but when you are pushing your own agenda. You can’t have that it’s my piece of pie.  You can’t do that it belongs to me.  It’s mine, It’s mine, It’s mine.  This is self-ishness.  If you are an only child, and when your first younger sibling is born, you end up sharing everything.  You share the same toys, the same food, the same parents, which leaves less time for one of them because, siblings often compete for attention, especially when there is two.  This was the case with Jacob and Esau.  They fought for attention and blessings, and there was a sibling rivalry that lasted generations.   If instead you said, here’s mine, take mine, what’s mine is yours.  I used to think that God was mine, and I didn’t want to share Him, especially when I was a believer, but that was before I knew about the Body of Christ as one body.  How many times, do we stand in the grocery store and let other people go in front of us.  I remember one time I was not feeling well in a grocery store.  I actually felt like I was going to pass out.  There was a woman waiting there for her father, or her family, and I got in the line and said to her, “I was here first” and basically pushed my way through.  She was so mad at me and I didn’t know her, but I repented for that and I prayed for her because I knew I wasn’t showing Christ-like love to her and was being a bad example.  But this taught me that along with suffering long, enduring without weakening and not seeking my own rights, is something that we need to prayerfully consider as Christians.

Love is not touchy:  I split up touchy and fretful/resentful for a reason.  Women you know what I am talking about?  We can be pretty touchy monthly.  Maybe husbands know more about this than women.  Women can be fine, some women, for about 3 weeks, and the fourth week they interrupt like a volcano, and you do not know where it came from.  Touchy can also be moody.  It means going from one extreme to the other.  Bipolar disorder is a disorder of moods, and in some cases it is different, but for people with no history of mental illness, there is no reason why they should be screaming at someone.   Sometimes certain medications these days can affect, how moody and cranky you are, but I don’t know how many people will take this into consideration.  Our soul consists of our mind, emotions, and will.  We control what we think, and what we think controls what we feel, and what we feel controls our choices if we are led by the soul, but to be led by the Spirit, we surrender our thoughts to God, and think about things pertaining to God, and our emotions to God, to the point we will be able to make wise decisions.  We are supposed to be stable, and sober minded.  The more you are intimate with God the easier that this becomes.

Love is not resentful:  Have you ever seen Eeyore the donkey on Winnie the Pooh?  Some Christians behave like that, so down cast and sad because they have become bitter and resentful.  It starts with the seed and then it grows and grows and grows until it bears bad fruit.  Don’t let your heart become bitter, let it become better.  I’ve done already a post on forgiving others and receiving forgiveness so for the sake of time and space I will not get into that right now.

Love is not fretful:  Being fretful, means being full of fear.  When the disciples were in the boat and the waves were crashing in the sea, Jesus told them not to be afraid.  He told them to fret not many times in the Bible.  What does it mean?  It means to fully trust God, and it means that you can still feel fear but do it anyway.  People have many fears, and I will talk about one of the ones that has become the most difficult for me.  That was the fear of walking.  Something so simple that people take for granted.  I was not able to walk some years ago and had to relearn how to walk, and then sometimes because of weak muscles and balance issues, even though the doctors said there was nothing wrong, I was not able to walk because I had let fear come in my mind.  I started having panic attacks.  I have come to the conclusion that if there ever comes a time when I am not able to make it somewhere God will provide a way out, and I have not fallen yet.  To read the full the story on that you’d have to read my biography if and when I ever write one.

Since I am already at 3000 words or close to it, I’ll have to continue on another time….but take some time and meditate on the things I have said, and I’ll continue some other post(s) on the subject.  This was a very difficult area for me to examine myself in after I learned about in Bible Study.  I had to take time to really examine myself and look at myself, and you kind of have to watch everything you say and what you do because God is watching you too.   So are others, and to be able to completely love like Jesus did would be to exhibit self-control and repentance in certain areas of the life.  I know I am not perfect, but I desire to be like Christ, as I encourage you all to do as well.  The world is waiting for us to show what Christ is like to the world.

Heavenly Father,

I pray for all of us, to receive Christ-like loving attitudes, that can change and shake the world into a revival.  Let the heart of a every believer be changed, into more and more resembling your love.  Let us be like you.  Let all that I have said not just be head knowledge, or a nice read, but let it cause a heart transformation, not only in myself, but in believers of Christ, and unbelievers too, so that they can fully know how much You loved them to die for them, and how You rose from the grave to have evidence, of the living life that they have.  Let us not get to that place, where we have done so many things for You, but then You say that You never knew us, Lord.”

In Jesus Mighty Name I pray,

Amen.